“Pals before gals,” “Sisters before misters,” and many more phrases convey similar messages of prioritizing friendships over romantic relationships. This year, on Feb. 13, the day before Valentine’s Day was coined as “Galentine’s day.” This day is one of the most prominent representations of these values as it was a day full of love and appreciation, not only for couples, but between female friendships. Not only does this new twist make the occasion entirely inclusive, it also does not diminish the couples that celebrate it.
Although the origin of Valentine’s Day is shrouded, there are theories that the holiday originates from Ancient Roman roots, where a celebration called Lupercalia came from. Lupercalia was a festival dedicated to the Roman god of agriculture. Christianity later influenced this, and in the 5th century, Pope Gelasius I declared February 14 as St. Valentine’s Day. Later writings regarding this day twisted it to be the holiday of love as we know it today.
Now, with the rise of social media, different takes on this holiday have ensued. Season 2, episode 16 of “Parks and Recreation” in 2010 marks the origin of Galentine’s Day. During this episode, the character Leslie gathers a group of her friends for a brunch saying, “Every February 13, my lady friends and I leave our husbands and our boyfriends at home and we just come and kick it, breakfast style. Ladies celebrating ladies.”
“For Valentines, I spent it with my friends by wearing matching shades of pink to honor the aesthetics of the day,” Lucy Park (10), participant of Galentine’s, said. “I think it’s really great that this is a growing trend as it just shows how strong female friendships are and emphasizes that single or in a relationship, we all have something to celebrate.”
Other trends on Galentine’s included throwing an entirely pink party, sleepovers, exchanging chocolate, and other traditional Valentines activities, but all targeted towards girls. Major corporations accommodated these patterns by promoting Galentine’s themed party decorations, arts and crafts, and much more.
However, this holiday doesn’t limit itself on inclusivity based on relationship status.
“Even though I was able to spend Valentine’s day with my girlfriend, I think the idea of spending the occasion with friends is a great idea,” Ian Kim (10) said. “Both a significant other and a friend are valuable to have in our lives, and I feel like it’s good for us to take advantage of this time to express our gratitude toward them.”